There are 3 types of experiences with love. The first is the euphoric visual that boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy and girl date, fall in love and live happily ever after. While this happens for some, it does not occur for most. The second option is what most of us have experienced. We have loved with all our hearts and were either left hurt, or in despair wondering if we would or should ever love again. The latter group consists of those were fortunate enough to find love but once they found themselves in a relationship, they often experienced moments where their partner caused them to feel rejected, abandoned, or as if they didn’t matter, could never get it right or were made to feel as if they weren’t good enough. Unless you experienced the life behind door #1, you more than likely felt one of the latter two experiences in your relationships. This isn’t how love is supposed to be. So, what keeps us from the first type of love experience? Many of us did not grow up in households where our parents taught us how to love. Love is something we all want, but many find difficult to acquire or achieve. Everyone wants to love and be loved, but not everyone knows how to go about giving and receiving the love we both want and need from our relationships. So, what causes us to start off happy but not remain happy? Why doesn’t our partner understand us during times of conflict? What do we do when all we want to do is reconnect with the one who matters most?
It was my last break up where God’s grace met me on this journey of healing that pointed me into the direction of becoming a marriage and family therapist. With God’s blessing I am now taking my research and experience to teach others about this love thang. Why? So, they can love like they’ve never been hurt. We are all capable of being loved and loving others. We just have to find the courage to do the work to get there. It won’t happen overnight, but in order to experience the love again…you gotta let ‘em see you naked.